Online dating tips from a person who have been there
Gone are the days when people were asked how they met, and instead of being honest, they just beat around the bush. Today, the largest percentage meet online. I’m one of them. This brings us to today’s topic, online dating tips.
This post will discuss a few tips that you can apply when you are dating online. And hopefully, it will help you as you navigate worldwide dating sites.
1. List down what you are looking for
When you pick up the phone and create a profile on a dating app, it’s good to know the answer to the question, “What are you looking for?”
This might be one of those things you don’t think about, but you might be surprised when the other person asks that exact question and doesn’t have an answer! I guess when someone puts this question on the table, they are honest and straightforward. It helps you understand if you are both on the same page.
So don’t be afraid, to be honest, and sort out a few people who aren’t serious – if that’s what you want.
2. Pinpoint your deal breakers
One of the things that can cause relationships not to work is not letting the other person know your core values from the beginning. This could be religion, a behavior that’s a no-no for you, or something else. But if you don’t say it openly, no one will know.
So I would recommend that you state what your “deal breakers” are in your online bio to avoid starting something that won’t last.
3. Don't waste your time where there are no replies
I understand we have other obligations than chatting, but someone interested in you will keep the conversation going.
If you feel like you’re putting in a lot of effort without it being necessary or likely to be reciprocated, it’s better to call it off and move on.
Don’t let anyone waste your time because you won’t be around forever. I think you are in online dating to meet someone seriously and start something concrete together.
4. Be open-minded
Now I’ve been with my partner for a couple of years and have our one-year-old daughter, and I can confirm that I don’t regret trying online dating. Why, in fact. I’ve learned a lot and experienced new things over the past few years.
I went into this relationship with no mentality that our cultural difference would be a problem. If I relocated to his country, I would not survive the weather, or even the family might not like me.
Since these could be some things that cause anxiety while pursuing a relationship, they could also positively impact both of you. The secret is to stay open to what makes you different and be willing to share your customs and beliefs.
5. Let your primary focus be what their bio states
One mistake we all make when trying online dating is that we rely on looks, in that case, pictures, and forget to read what’s in the person’s profile. I’ve seen stories where people have gone on a first date, and the other person said, “Didn’t you read in my profile that I’m married?” I imagine the look on your face at that point and probably just said, holy crap!
But I say if you’re not careful, you’re going to meet all kinds of people while trying online dating. The best tip I’d give you is, take the time to go through those profiles. Find an average person that fits their profile.