Do we argue more now that we have a baby?

This shouldn’t come as a shock. The answer is yes: couples argue more after they have a baby. But why is it so? Hence today’s blog major topic, “Reasons why couples argue after having a baby.”

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Let’s get a little more personal today. But remember, in an inspirational and informative way.

If you read the title, you know what I’m going to talk about, but wonder why? Well, grab a cup of coffee and stick around a little longer.

“Do you fight more now that you have a baby?” is a question my partner and I have encountered. And maybe you’ve heard it, too.

I don’t think people tend to ask you as a couple because you used to fight, but the phrase also shows that relationships don’t always run smoothly. And that’s regardless of whether there’s a baby or not.

Let's dive into it in detail and see the four reasons couples argue after having a baby.

1. The difference in parenting ideas

Honestly, this was our biggest problem.

I, as a mother, felt I knew and wanted to do everything for my dear daughter. On the other hand, my husband felt left out and sometimes didn’t get a word in edgewise when it came to our daughter’s matters.

Regardless of these initial difficulties, we figured out how to overcome parenting differences with a few tips.

Here they are:

  • Try not to undermine each other
  • Sit down together and discuss how you can educate yourselves together
  • Bring in things that you both agree on
  • Remember to complement each other.

"I will be generous with my love today. I will sprinkle compliments and uplifting words everywhere I go. I will do this knowing that my words are like seeds and when they fall on fertile soil, a reflection of those seeds will grow into something greater."

2. Closeness slipping off

I’m not ashamed to talk about it. Are you?

It’s something almost every parent has experienced. With all the new responsibilities you take on as a parent: Changing diapers, taking care of crying babies, breastfeeding, and so on, you may have forgotten entirely about intimacy.

We found it challenging to adjust to this change in priorities because we missed the closeness we had before.

When I saw how much this was hurting our relationship, I set out to find possible solutions.

Are you in the same shoes as I was? Here’s a guide with tips that can help.

3. Feeling like your partner isn't offering enough help

The third reason why couples argue more after having a baby is the feeling of not getting enough help.

For example, let me assume that you’re a mother reading this. Have you ever been in that situation where it was just you at home all day, and your partner felt like you had rested enough and didn’t need to do anything?

Well, you’re not alone.

If that’s the case, talk to them. To ask for help and to say that you are tired.

If it is said respectfully, the other person will take it correctly, understand you and lend a hand.


I think every couple faces specific challenges, especially when they become parents for the first time. That said, there may be more reasons why couples argue more after having a baby.

I’d be happy to read more of them in the comment section.

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